Human.... is the cruelest animal of anything on this planet earth. the most selfish.. the most illogical... the most insensitive.
and not to forget to mention THE MOST CUNNING... SELFISH CREATURE.
Some might feel.. i wrote this is a rage of anger...but NO... this isnt just Rage of Anger.. This is a mixed feeling... Feeling pity about few circumstances today...
This is yet another writeup, Reason : LOVESICKNESS...
Falling in love.... : THE MOST BEAUTIFUL FEELING IN THE WORLD
Defined by : God, Philosophers, General Public...
Everybody has faith in love.. It is said to be the most beautiful feeling....
But Still why FALLING IN LOVE IS BAD???
Why is it still considered as a Taboo in our society...Lets not consider, whole of the world...
lets just talk about our own INDIA...
Lets talk niche...
I am a proud Indian....Yes Truely... I love the colours in Flag... I love when the Flag is hosted...
I love when we win Wars...
I love when we are considered as the upcoming super nation....I love just everythng about it...
Is it really this??? Or is this something.... I am fed..I dont even remember since when, here are things.. I dont like... i dont love... i cant endure bout this nation.
The biggest reason out of all is the diplomacy...We think non-sense... but we pretend to talk sense.
We are still struggling with powerty,but we showoff ourselves with F1, commenwealth, and a few billiniors we have.We still have a super conservative mentality, but we name it our Culture and tradition.We can sacrifice our loved once... for our NAME in SOCIETY.
Human..comes into existance after making love...Still people FALLING IN LOVE are criticised, hated. When we get into our senses... one of the most primary things we are taught is,
We live as a family, we are relatives and we have to live together, because we love each other. The word love is arranged with every relation god "arranged" for us, sent with us.
Everybody arond is very happy, because you are a sincere son / daugter of family, you love your family the most. You love the thing... god arranged for you...
But the same relations, the same people, the same smile changes abruptly, as soon as you start loving somebody...with was not arranged for you...
Something which is not arranged, but you fall in it.
I fell in love, real love.... which people might say immature... myt consider infactuation. But when i have spent 25years of my life with ARRANGED love everywere around, how can people suspect me, when i say I m into love.When I say, I am into love, people start giving it points, start betting bout if its real or fake,right or wrong, can be successful or unsucceful.
But i dont understand.. what is right or wrong about love?? how can love be wrong...
Love for me is... a very simple straight forward thing.. which neither have expectations nor it has any doubts.
If you are in love... you are in love!!!
whats a big deal bout it???
In INDIA.. FALLING in love is a PAGE3 thing, for general public is a TABOO...Everybody around you is ashamed, as if, its not love.. its AIDS what you have....
I gues even AIDS sounds good.
Why cant we just accept it as it is...with a smile.
Reason I found is very simple....1) society.... who wont let you..and your family live...
and wont let your younger sibiings get married.
2) Everybodyz different defination.
And India has a terrible tendency in few cases, everybody here is a self-proclaimed Doctor, teacher, preacher, and philosopher.
And hence, has all the reserved rights to prove things right or wrong.
Everybody has their own reasons, to prove it ryt / wrong, same happened with me.
The maximum I am bothered with is My maa My Paa and yaah,,,, the kind of little sis.
Papa... WHO IS STILL UNAWARE OF MY STATE...as per him,,, I guess love dosnt exists at all,,.... atlest if you do not have any achievements in life, and if you are not Ranu (by ur hard luck)
Hez bought up that ways... not his fault too....
Maa....Love now is only... what mamaji defines or sometyms Mausi,or nanaji. Else... money is the most imp factor then love.
As she says, you can live yor life, without love,,, but money gives you social status and here comes happiness along.
Therez no logic behind her this theory, other then her sufferings in life, her post marrige traumaz, for all her life staying away from my father because of her kids bright future, and still getting no rewards, to be the poorest of all the sibilings, to have to fight alone about approximately everything around, still criticisms(a typical indian women life).
SIS : My 8years younger sis.who is just a 12th passout, a teen-ager.A teen-ager..but never sounds 1....
Same as me.. more mature then she should be....Though MY FAMILY never thought I was mature,,, but yaa.. psycologist do think so.
She feels, I am wrong.... because.. my guy isnt capable to lead my life... our life... Plus.. more of a Blend of my parents thinking and her own dreams for money and a succesful lyf.
As of now.. my mother and my sister dosent have courage to face society.... once IF AT ALL I GET MARRIED.
If we talk about the topic I am abused,rude comments,and decisions are passed on.
I guess... It has more to do with Psycology, then anything else. I am forced to move on, I am forced to get married to somebody else.
I might have to kill myself for it... for their sake, I might not be ME anymore.But nobody will care, I am sure, they will be hapy all their lives tinking,
they threw me into a sack full of money, and ASSUMPTION BASED THEORY WILL BE PASSED : SHE IS HAPPY.
I might not be able to make u. I might have to lead my life their way, I might have to sacrifice my Falled love to their Arranged(which is accpted by all means.)
I will never utter a single word...will move on(as per them) silently. will never held my family / parents responsible for anything...But yes... I just hope... A day will come.. when they will realise, Falling in love, is as good as ARRANGED LOVE.
I hope... it wont be too late.. for them to understand, for me to go back,,,, for him to trust me again...
All I think today is..ARRANGE LOVE IS ALL PEOPLE CONSIDER IN INDIA EVEN NOW( 1 of the reasons for not liking India).....and...
FALLING IN LOVE IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL FEELING BUT IRONICAL...
PS: This is a feel of anybody struggling in love... to get in it.. or to get out of it...
:(:(......
ReplyDeleteKaay Zhala Porgi??
ReplyDeleteRating - ***** "A Very Sentimental Write Up put in exceptionally well words. Claps for the Author" - Uday
ReplyDelete@Uday --> thankx :) its not author.. thats writer... n thank you.. for the award winning performance rating :)
ReplyDeletemiss mature .. it seems like rage of anger (more than mixed feelings..) :P
ReplyDeletesame condition is with so many people but they (specially girls in our beloved India ) can't show this kind of "mixed feelings" publicly .
!! BRAVO !!
Irony of Falling in Love..... is absolutely awesome !
@Devu --> thaknx dost :)
ReplyDelete"Falling in love is not at all the most stupid thing that people do — but gravitation cannot be held responsible for it" - Kazzy
ReplyDeleteFalling in Love or Love or being loved... Its destined... Unfortunate but its true... Sad but True...
ReplyDeleteWell said :) :)- Roopam
ReplyDeletevery true... when our society willl accept that LOVE is just pure LOVE then in true sense we all will grow...
ReplyDeleteruchika
3 cheers for the article. I am jealous such a nice thoughts. You wrote fantastic. Articulated in awesome vocab, idioms, thoughts & examples. I appreciate it. Any stranger who is not a close relative to you would have supported it. Still, if you resume to think again please let me know couple of things like:
ReplyDelete1.Why most of the love marriages end with divorces?
2.Do you think psychologically blaming self would be better for prospective life for any wrong decision (think about it) ?
3. Do you have any scale to measure true/false love?
4. Institution of marriage is concerned about two people or two families??
5. Let me presume it has a huge concern about two families, if it is then love ought to be took place after consent of family so that it get convert in a successful love arranged marriage. (Is it possible?)
6. Decisions are normally made upon experience, logics & probabilities to ensure the contentment expecting a fruitful results. Is it a wrong way of decision making.
There are Millions of such thoughts probably will contradict you and if in very simple & straight way you would see to it, you will find all your questions & its answers get streamlined. Dont create a philosophical articulated thought to delight yourself with feelings generated due to chemical & hormones secrets in one's mind and body.
@Paresh bro -->
ReplyDelete1.Why most of the love marriages end with divorces? - please check sometym, only those.. who dont have any family suport ends into that usually at an early stage.
2.Do you think psychologically blaming self would be better for prospective life for any wrong decision (think about it)--> what you say is a wrong decision?
3. Do you have any scale to measure true/false love--> thats my point,,,, offcourse not !! AND THAT NOBODY HAS.
4. Institution of marriage is concerned about two people or two families??--> 2 families has to come together... a society has to join hands... thats what my point here is :)
5. Let me presume it has a huge concern about two families, if it is then love ought to be took place after consent of family so that it get convert in a successful love arranged marriage. (Is it possible?)--> i have seen cases.. where almost every marroge is a love marrige for a few generations now. :)
6. Decisions are normally made upon experience, logics & probabilities to ensure the contentment expecting a fruitful results. Is it a wrong way of decision making.--> Everybody around almost has an experience of AN ARRANGED LOVE.., but they make a deal bout Falling in love.. is that correct?
I HAVE JUST PUT MY THOT ACROSS, IT MAY OR MAY NOT BE A VERY SUCCESSFUL / LOGICAL IDEA. :)
People luv u all d time.. Its jus dat they may nt b able 2 luv u d way u undrstand luv....
ReplyDeleteThey jus luv u d way they know 2 luv.........:)
BTW tere paas dil bacha b hai, ya sab paper pe utaar diya hai???????? very nicely writtn :)
keep writing.. keep writing..keep writting :)
- ATUL CHAVAN
@aTUL --> THANKX DOST :)
ReplyDeleteDil tha hi kab jo bachega ab..?? hum to bas saanso se jii rahe hain... kuch miithe kuch kadhwe ghoot pii rahe hian :)
Awesome & true thought... Its indeed.. Falling in love is the most beautiful feeling..!!!
ReplyDeleteIn life we never get what we want and we always have to compromise only in the end. Every person wants someone or something which is not gettable. Desires are more and resources are limited so life is just a compromise. :):):)
@Thankx for the reviews if u cud just mention your name :)
DeleteLife is like a roller coaster, we have our ups, we have our downs, and then we have our twirls and whirls, but we keep on pushing through... :):):)
ReplyDeletei'm kinnda late for the comment but, love marriages r few so we think that their divorce rate it high which is not, ppl in love before marriage go with the thought of low adjustment most of the time, ppl in arrange marriage go with a idea of adjusments n thy knw thy cant come back to their home coz of taboos frm the society...
ReplyDeletekopal stick to ur decision. stand tall with ur love atleast u'll be happy at the end n that is wat matters n counts....
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